It would surprise you to know that there are seriously underrated bedroom moves that separate the good lovers from the truly great lovers.
It is no secret that we tend to focus on obvious parts of the body when it comes to being an unforgettable lover. We put so much energy into learning how to provide pleasure, specifically to the parts between her legs, that we forget that sex is like a whole body experience.
So many folks seem to be oblivious that you have the power to ignite your lover’s entire body; knowing how to touch and please the parts of your lover that even she forgets about is an incredible way to set yourself up for legendary lover status. And finally, win that best sex ever trophy that you’ve had your eyes on for a while.
Here, you will find 10 unusual underrated places to touch a woman’s body to drive her wild. Better than that, I will tell you exactly how to tantalize, tease and delight them.
But one of the most important things you should consider before figuring out about these sensual places is:
It’s not just location. It is actually how you touch. If you took nothing else away from this article, how is the single most important factor of touch? I could tell you 100 different places to touch a woman. But if you’re like Poke, Tickle, and Karate Chop, it won’t be a big turn on for her.
Generally, I advise you to keep your touches loving as if you were transmitting love through your fingertips. Soft, slow, and sensual is the way to go unless she asks for something else.
Remember, the following locations are powerful. They’re not just like the usual run of the mill everyday touches. So, you will want to start gently and gauge how she reacts. I can almost guarantee that some of these will drive her wild. She’s going to be like, I don’t know how I feel, and that is because, as with all things, sex and relationships, we’re all unique snowflakes.
No two bodies are the same. So, make sure that you read her body language and have some verbal communication with words about whether or not she’s into that.
Remember that variety is the spice of life and pleasure. So, make sure to leave all of these areas quickly. Make sure you switch off your movement from straight lines to circles, from predictable to random, and anything and everything in between.
1- Touch behind her ears
The ears and the areas surrounding them are such a neglected erogenous zone. They are highly sensitive, and they rarely get touched.
Do you know that joke about like washing behind your ears? We don’t even remember to touch behind our ears. So, when a lover gets intimate up in there, it can feel really good.
Try rubbing a finger gently along her ear lobe, behind her ear, and tracing down her jawline. Do that slowly, and while kissing her, you will have at least one woman melting easily.
Of course, you can also use your mouth and your tongue. You can give the earl loves little nibbles and kiss and suck on her ear lobes.
The pro tip is to be mindful of your breathing because there is a fine line between a little warm breath and Darth Vader breath. This is potentially the vibe you’re going for, but just in case it’s not. And you’re more like playing a Luke Skywalker role. Maybe breathe out your nose or turn your head a little bit.
2- Touch her collarbone (clavicle)
We are not talking about the neck. It is about the bone that might be dying for tender loving care.
This is a part of the body that doesn’t frequently get touched. And that’s what makes it such a fantastic area to kiss and caress. There’s all this real estate between those two highly trafficked areas.
So, paying attention to these collarbones feels great and shows your partner that you’re noticing all of the little details about her body and not just going for the more obvious location.
3- Touch the back of the upper arm
This is a skin that covers the triceps, and it deserves a sensual touch. Running your fingers along the inside and the backside of your lover’s upper arm is a great source of pleasure. And that’s because this area doesn’t get a ton of touch but is incredibly sensitive. And also, it feels nice, super smooth, high quality skin over there.
The skin of this area is extremely sensitive, and just like all the other really sensitive parts of our bodies, having it touched just the right way can be erotic.
By the way, remember it’s also very vulnerable, because we never really let too many people into this part of us.
4- Touch her Heart
Touching over her heart is incredibly energetically connecting. It is such a sweet and tender spot. It’s the place we like to cover when we feel deeply touched by something.
When we feel moved by the love that all happens in our chest, in the energetic heart, and at the center of the body, you can hover a hand over her heart, gently resting your hand on her heart, even just gently tracing your fingers over this area in between her breasts.
Remember also that the heart is 360 degrees. It’s like a 3D organ. So, you can also put your hand over the back of her heart.
One thing that you might notice is that a lot of us are really tense and bound on the backside of her heart. So, this can be a connecting, vulnerable, energetically erotic experience. Placing your palm at the back of her heart, taking a couple of deep breaths, just tuning into her body and what’s going on there will give you all kinds of information.
5- Lower back and sacrum
The low back and sacrum, the upside down triangle at the back of her pelvis, where her spine ends and just above her tailbone, is an incredibly sexy area to touch.
It’s above the butt, which makes it distinct from the body. You might have a lot of familiarity with going for the but. You might not be going for this part of the body so much.
In the tundra, this is one of the most important parts of the body. So, you can touch it outside of the bedroom. But you can also call attention to it and touch it inside the bedroom.
You can gently trace little circles around this area. You can massage it. For many women, there’s a lot of tension in the muscles that plugs directly into the sacrum. Depending on her comfort level, you can gently or give a real massage in there. But either way, this can release a ton of tension. And it tends to be sort of like the backside of the genitalia. So, a lot of the nerves, and some like the shared energetic and connective tissue that runs at the sacrum, are also connected to the rest of her pelvis and her pleasure centers.
It moves a lot for you to touch there. It’s also very intimate; it is also very vulnerable.
One of its advantages is that you can touch it when you’re even out in public. You can put your hand over her lower back and send some love there. This move feels competent, very protective, and flirtatious.
6- Touch the inside of her knees
To be clear, I didn’t say behind the knees. That is a tickle zone, and I only want you to go there if she specifically asks for it.
But the inside of her knees, which is at the end of the inside of her thighs, is arousing because it makes her want to have you touch further up. But you’re not doing it.
So, she might be thinking of places you would like your hand to wander. But you’re just staying where her knee meets the inside of her thighs. It’s a very sensitive area, and it’s just sort of baseline arousing because it’s teasing and touching on the nerves of the inside of the thigh.
You can also start on her lower cab, the inside of her ankle, slowly work your way up to the knee and then stop there. You will drive her fricking nuts because she will want you to keep moving those hands and fingers upward, and then she’ll be putty in your hands, and you can decide when she gets to have that as a reward.
7- Touch between her toes
I get that only some people are into feet. But foot rubs and foot massages, let’s say that they are pretty popular among the women folk.
When did you last feel someone touch in between your toes? It is a neglected area. You can always test the waters by slowly running your fingers along the top of her foot, right where her toes connect to her foot. You can also gently run your fingers between the creases of her toes and see the kind of reaction you get.
It’s worth noting that if you’re open to it, this is an incredibly erotic place to get into with your mouth and tongue. There’s something kinky about it for sure, but you don’t have to be a foot fetishist to get into and get off on getting in between those toes.
8- Touch the balls of her ankles
What you do is you take your fingers, and you circle the balls of her ankles. This is on both the inside and the outside of each ankle. You can make little circles around the ankle bones; it is sensitizing and feels so good. And is so vulnerable.
Not everyone loves it. But I recommend you try it by giving your partner a full body warmup, touching them all over their body, and then incorporating this can be nice.
9- Touch the pelvic bone (hip bones)
The hip bones that stick out parallel her body’s front side on the pelvis’s front side.
Depending on her anatomy, you can feel them right away, or you may have to fumble around for them with your palms. But either way, once you find them, it is so nice and unexpected for you to rest your hands there and push down gently. This works best if she’s lying down. I could have started there, but you find them and put some pressure on them.
This creates the sensation of being held. As full grown adults, most of us don’t have the opportunity to be held and cradled like little babes. But it does feel really good when we can recreate that sensation. And since the pelvis is one of the largest parts of the body and the largest bone in the body, you can hold it and give her the sensation of being held.
Now, you can also trace these with your fingers or massage her. The hip flexors that are attached can be extremely tight, especially if she sits all day in a chair, in an office, or a car.
So, there’s so much tension to be released from here, but at a minimum, just holding and touching them.
10- Touch anywhere that her body creases
I’m talking about the parts of her body where her skin folds in on itself. The best example is right underneath the breast, right underneath a bum cheek.
The reason that this is such a wonderful place is that so many of us carry some amount of shame around these body parts. We don’t often allow other people to touch them. We don’t touch them ourselves. We could touch them when we need to when cleaning them or putting in powder or something during the summer.
But showing love to these parts of her body can help her feel very seen and appreciated. It can be a moment of connection and openness.
Certainly, only some women will be as into that, so check with her. But if she is, and you can be very tender and very loving when you do that, you’ll be surprised at the blossoming and blooming that you will see in the woman in front of you.
So, there are 10 places to touch her that I bet you have not thought of. It can help you to improve your relationship with you and your partner.